Friday, May 11, 2012
SEX IN THE CITY (AND OTHER PLACES)
This is Hattie Collier reminding you that something I’ve always heard is very true: be careful what you ask for, you just may get it. Back in the 60’s and 70’s a whole lot of women, were hollerin’ about sex discrimination. I wasn’t necessarily one of them, but even I had to admit some things about being a woman was downright unfair.
Once a woman married, her personal identity all but disappeared. She became “Mrs. John Doe” and was sort of identified by her husband. If a woman wanted to buy so much as a piece of gum on credit the salesman wanted an okay from her husband.
Things hit the fan with the Equal Rights Act. Now, I thought it was about women getting equal pay for equal work; same as a man. Instead it turned into a whole lot of hoopla on what jobs women could or couldn’t do, whether a man should still open a door for a woman, who should pay on a date and a whole lot of other nonsense that, to me, just missed the point altogether.
Everybody knows that compared to the rest of the world, the United States seems more obsessed with the subject of sex than any other country, so the Sexual Revolution was almost inevitable. Women wanted to be as free to be as sexually promiscuous as men. Congratulations! We got what we asked for.
So, here we are today where sex is freely talked about, looked at and practiced. Everything has sexual overtones. You buy a car and a skimpily clad woman suggests that someone like her comes with the purchase. A television commercial suggests that plumbing problems are solved by two sexy ingredients with the “longest snake” ever to unclog your drain. Lord have mercy!
Some would think it’s an improvement that television shows have evolved from married couples sleeping in separate beds to naked unmarried couples rolling around in a chorus of groans and lip-smacking kisses. Really?
In spite of what my friends might say I’m not a prude, but in my opinion people who say that they want to tone down the sex and violence in the media are wrong when they claim they want to do so to protect the children. It should be toned down to protect the rest of us from ignorant adults who apparently have no self control.
In just one week of reading the news and watching television I counted no less than five stories on teachers and coaches molesting children. One of these adults was accused of having sex with a student on his desk! What is going on?
We have senators, congressmen, presidents and president-wantabe’s who can’t control their sexual urges long enough to get elected or to serve the country with honor. Am I wrong?
I’m not stupid. I know that without a healthy interest in sex, none of us would be here. Yet in the grand scheme of things, it just aint that important.
They say that familiarity breeds contempt, and they’re right. In this country, sex has become a recreational sport or a pastime to replace having a real relationship. Folks are having sex when and where they want. We talk about it any place and at any time. Some folks even allow their kids to engage in sex at home where it’s “safe”. In short, when it comes to sex in the good old U.S.A. almost anything goes.
I taught my children to do what’s right and not fall for the ‘everybody’s doing it’ line. That advice might be good for all of us. Just because everybody is doing it, doesn’t make it right. We need to be careful about what we ask for just in case we get it.Now muse on that!