Friday, September 16, 2011
WHAT PEOPLE SAY AND WHAT THEY REALLY MEAN
Hello, this is Connie Palmer writing on the blog this week, and I’ve been giving some thought about how difficult it is for most of us to say what we really mean. How many times have we heard the words “honesty is the best policy”? Too many as far as I’m concerned, especially when I know that lies seem to be more common than truth for too many people. It’s especially rampant among politicians. I’m beginning to think that lying is second nature for them they tell so many of them. It would be nice if people say what they really mean. Believe me, the world would be a much better place.
For instance, when politicians say that these are times of economic uncertainty, what they really mean is that your ass is grass! You ain’t got no money. You ain’t gonna get no money, and the government ain’t gonna print no more money so you can get some. Too bad for you! I’ve got mine and I’m happy.
That lie is almost as bad as when they say “I’m not a Washington insider”. What they really mean and what they leave out is the word yet, because as soon as they get the opportunity to meet whoever can make them an insider it’s status quo time. Power and influence are addictive and I’m not aware of many rebels in Washington. I might be wrong, but I don’t think that there are many politicians who leave office with less money than they had when they won office.
But I’m not going to beat up on politicians. They’re just easy targets because they lie so much about everything. There are so many things that people say, but don’t mean that I can’t name them all, so I picked a few of my other favorites.
When you bump into someone that you haven’t seen for some time and they call you Sweetie, Honey or Dear during the conversation, what they really mean is “I couldn’t remember your name if somebody paid me,” or “either I’ve got to cut this short and make my escape or keep talking until you give me a clue to what the hell your name is.” I know this one is true because I’m guilty.
Another one is when some parents say that their child is precocious. What they really mean is watch out for the brat and I’m keeping the kid’s hair long so the horns don’t show.
This one is for those of you who are grandparents. When your children bring the grandchildren over to your house and they say: “Could you watch the kids for a little while. I’ve got to run to the (fill in the blank).” What they really mean is “You’ll be babysitting for me for the next 4, (6,8,10,18 or maybe 24) hours and if you think that you’re going to see me before then you’ve got another think coming!” I learned this one the hard way, so grandparents beware! Let them call you in advance, tell you exactly what they need, and if you give them the okay also give them a deadline. If the car doesn’t pull up by the deadline, that’s it. Next time tell them to find another babysitter. You’ve got your own life to live.
You know, one thing that I enjoy about growing older is having attained peace of mind. Things that were so important when I was younger have become less so now. I don’t tolerate lies or liars anymore. I demand the truth and I try to be truthful. Oh, there are times when I’ll backslide so that I won’t hurt someone’s feelings. After all how can I tell a mother that her baby is ugly? So I’ll describe it as sweet, or precious when what I really mean is that I hope the kid grows up to be smart, because becoming attractive will remain an unattainable goal.
It would be nice if we could all say what we mean more often. I think that the truth can hurt much less than a lie. I’m just saying what I really mean, so you can muse on that.